How to be a Mommy & a Muse

I think the hardest thing to balance being apart of motherhood is “balance” itself. As a Mom we want to do it all, know it all, and be it all (at least I know I did). Especially with me being a first time Mom, there is always that fear of not being good enough, or me just failing at this shit period. I had to realize that not wanting to fail, was a failure in itself. Being afraid to fail not only handicaps me from being able to learn, but it can also hinder my child from being afraid to fail. A wise woman once said that “Failure is only a failure if you don’t learn from it and get back up and try the shit again”. (That wise woman was me) :)

I have learned that one of the best ways to be the best mom I can be is to not forget about myself. Just like with relationships when they say you have to love yourself first before you are able to love anyone else. That also applies to motherhood, you have to take care of yourself first before you can be fully confident about taking care of anyone else; not forgetting that you are not just a “mother” you are many other beautiful things as well. You can still be that Bad Ass Business Woman and a Bad Ass Mom. You can still be that Dancer & Artist and still be a Badass Mom. You can still be that Bad Ass Creative, Bad Ass Wife, and still be a Badass Mom. You can still be a Mommy & a Muse.

Ten Commandments on How to Be A Mommy & A Muse

10. Thou Shalt Not Beat Oneself Up

Everything won't always be easy. Everything won't always go the way YOU planned it to go, but everything will always work out the way its SUPPOSE to.

9. Thou Shalt Forgive Oneself

When the going gets tough, dont beat yourself up. You are human too. Humans Make Mistakes. Forgive yourself and start over tomorrow.

8. Thou Shalt Celebrate Thyself

Right after you forgive yourself. Celebrate yourself for all your bad ass achievements as a Mom & as A Muse.

7. Thou Shalt BE Vulnerable

To be vulnerable is to be courageous, for vulnerability stands defiantly in the face of fear. It’s almost human nature to associate vulnerability with being weak. But when it comes to the heart, being vulnerable is not only good. It's necessary. So the next time someone calls you sensitive. Let them know yes, you're sensitive but not soft. You’ll still snatch a…..(sorry) :)

6. Thou Shalt Not Compare Yourself to Others

We are all different. We move at different paces. We have different beliefs. We move different. Your time may not be their time, & their time may not be your time. But your time won't ever pass you by.

5. Thou Shalt Ask For Help

“Being a badass is about having the courage to ask for help when you need it. And, delegating the things that you can’t do or don’t want to do.”

4. Thou Shalt Mean Business

 As a Woman we are often taken for granted, or mistaken for being weak because of our femininity.   

3. Thou Shalt Mean What You Say

Being a badass, rebel mom is saying Yes to the things that we want to say yes to and NO to the things that we don’t want to do.

2. Thou Shalt Accept Failure

Fail as many times as you want. As long as you get back up and try that shit again.

1. Thou Shalt BALANCE

Be a Bad-Ass Mom. But Never Forget about all the other Badass things you are.